Emotionally Driven?

Kayla Howard Family, Self Care 33 Comments

Emotionally Driven?
by Kayla Howard
A lot of people like to talk about development as humans in terms of evolution. I do not personally believe that humans evolved from ape, to caveman, and so on, but I do believe that we spend most of our lives fighting animal-ish instincts. We’re not animals, but we do not naturally desire to choose the road that is best. We, like animals, would rather choose to eat whatever is in sight that looks and smells delicious. We feel compelled to take a nap over doing our chores and we would probably rather watch a movie than do an exercise DVD.

It’s easier to act on emotion… to do whatever we feel like doing.  Stay consistent.
Successful people don’t do what they feel like doing. They “take care to do what they are supposed to do.” They are not comparing themselves to other people, but they are intently completing their tasks.
Be honest, how often do you actually feel like doing what needs done?
Being intent on completing your tasks does not mean that you ignore people.  You “task” includes things like kindness, patience, faithfulness, gentleness, and uh… self-control. Ouch.
The entire point of writing this newsletter is to spur you on to success.   I pray that something said here makes it “easier” for you to be consistent and to reach your desired goal.
Watch out for how many decisions you make based on emotion today. God has convicted me in this area. Those times when I yell harshly because someone messed up my room “exploring” when I could have spoken kindly, but logically… Or when I don’t “feel like” dry skin brushing right now before my shower so I’ll just do it before bed. Then before bed, I’m just “too tired.” 
Today, be aware of your emotions, and whether or not you are allowing them to drive your actions.
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Kayla Howard is a stay at home wife and homeschooling mom who loves to teach the T-Tapp method of staying fit in 15 minutes a day from the comfort of your own home.  She is a  Biblical Health Coach and Senior T-Tapp Trainer, certified to teach all forms of T-Tapp.  If you’d like to know more about becoming and staying fit and healthy, Kayla is happy to answer your questions!  Visit her website: www.kaylahoward.com or Send an email to: kayla@t-tapp.com

Comments 33

  1. I really like the statement "Successful people don't do what they feel like doing, they take care to do what they are supposed to do". They are not driven by they're emotion except to complete they're task. I think too often, when it comes to exercise, I am driven by emotion. Which when I look in the mirror is not a good, or healthy thing. Moving forward I will be driven what is right rather than how I fee. Thanks Kayla.

  2. You really got me on this one."ouch" Thnks for the kick in the pants.    Where can i get a bruch and what is dry skin brushing?. I am fairly new to t-tapp All i have are the step dvds. I like them alot but I am not familar with the ones that have been on your page. I would like some info on some slow movement excersise.Thanks Janette

  3. I agree with you! I have to tell myself regularly that food is not my comfort. Just last night I decided when I got up, I was going for a walk. Have I done it yet? Nope. Instead I sat down at my desk and started working. I need to get my rear in gear and get out there! Work will be here when I get back. Have a great day!

    "Or when I don’t “feel like” dry skin brushing right now before my shower so I’ll just do it before bed. "
    That's me.  🙁  But it always feels better to "just make myself do it' and this post was a good reminder. Thanks! 

  5. Excellent post, Kayla!! Also, I would very much like Finger and Foot—-I'm a piano player so I think that would be useful to strengthen my fingers. 😀

  6. Perfect timing on this post.  I answered my daughter's call out to me in such a way last night that she said "never mind" and I had to bring it back to reality and know that even though I had my things to do before bed, her needs were far more important.  I wish I could take that "WHAT?!" back, but a little rub and a sincere, kind voice hopefully took some of the sting off.  Finger and Foot sounds great … maybe my foot cramps will go away.

  7. Since I work out at night after supper, I tell myself I need to let my dinner settle so I sit back and watch TV or read a book until 30-45 minutes have passed.  It's very easy for me at that time to just stay involved with whatever I'm doing until it's too late to exercise — you know, I don't want to get all wound up just before bedtime.  So it's either too early or too late.  Right!  Oftentimes, my husband will ask if I'm going to exercise that night, because he wants to put a DVD movie in to watch.  By answering him yes, I get around my tendency to keep doing what I'm doing, because I know I have to get up and exercise and finish by 8:00-ish so that we can watch the DVD.  My point being, sometimes I have to trick myself to move away from what I want and toward what I need.  As for your giveaway, boy with my RA affecting my hands and feet almost all the time, I would love to try that workout.  Have thought about buying it, just never got around to it.  Have a good day!

  8. WOW!  This hit me right between the eyes today.  OUCH.
    Thank you for posting what God was leading you to post.  I struggle with this "by the minute."  I am going to try to be a successful person according to the above definition!!  At least it's a goal.  And, I will keep praying!
    Thank you, again!

  9. Great post Kayla! I always feel better in the end when I do what I "need" to instead of what I "want" to…thanks for the reminder!
    Would love to win the Foot and Finger Fitness!

  10. Oh this is good!  I currently have my son and daughter-in-law living with us.  (5 months now).  They are precious.  It does mean more work, and less space.  I can complain about that OR I can be grateful for the many memories we're making.  They are precious and this is only a temporary season.  It won't be long and they'll be living several hours away.  I'm not looking forward to that, but I am looking forward to the possibilities that lie ahead for them. 
    We always have a choice, don't we.
    Thanks for you encouraging reminder, Kayla!  Always a breath of fresh air.  🙂

  11. This topic is close to my heart as I devoted much of my graduate study to the concept of self-regulation and "emotional" decision-making. At that time I came to the conclusion that really EVERY decision we make has an emotional component, even those we think we have made purely "rationally." I also read (and conducted)  a lot of research on resisting vs. giving in to temptation that demonstrated that–huge shocker–it is harder to resist temptation when we are already feeling "emotional" (e.g., stressed, angry, etc.), so naturally it's going to be harder to resist that tempting treat. One of the keys to resisting is the ability to bring to mind long-term goals (e.g., getting fit) when facing a temptation (e.g., satisfying that sweet tooth in the moment). I've wanted Finger and Foot fitness for some time now, so please enter me for the giveaway. Thank you!

  12. I know for me, those animal instincts really kick in when I'm stressed or depressed. I'm learning how to kick some of those things with essential oils to help me have the get up and go to do things that I need and want to do which help kick stress and depression even further out of my life. Kayla, thanks for this post. It has really hit the nail on the head with me today that I have to really push myself to do better. 

  13. Hi
    Certainly food for thought right now i am doing the self talk about whether to do my t-tapp or just watch a movie it's been long and very busy day and i still have stuff to deal with.  But you have inspired me to do what i need to do and not what i feel like doing.  Maybe i can do both!!

  14. Thanks for the kick in the pants!! 🙂 Just what I need to hear about today as I'm trying to get some projects done that I put off till the last minute (between getting frustrated with my kids and then eating junk food because I'm stressed and then getting more stressed… etc). I did make exercise a priority first thing today though!! 🙂

  15. Being aware- amen. Isn't that the truth when we feel like we're on emotional overload so much of the time. Thank you for your thoughts Kayla!

  16. Yikes. You hit the nail on the head! I've been thinking a lot about things like this lately. I put things off and then rush to get them done, when I could have gotten it all done and more if I had just gotten up and done it. I also like the statement about successful people.

  17. (Sorry if this is a duplicate post!)
    You hit the nail right on the head with this. I've been thinking quite a bit about how I should be doing something and putting it off until the last minute, and knowing that if I had just done it I would have gotten it done and more!
    Thanks for the timely post!

  18. Thank you so much your inspiring words, Kayla. I'm on day 2 of a 14 day T-Tapp boot camp and you have inspired me to really stick with it this time! I'd love to be entered for the drawing. Your posts always brighten my day. <3

  19. Today I said I would start my 2 week T-Tapp bootcamp…didn't get up early and rolled into the days activities. Must. do. it. tonight. before bed.  Thank you for the encouragement to be successful. 🙂
    And yes, I would like to enter the drawing for the finger and foot fitness. Thank you!

  20. So right Kayla! This really hit me especially after this weekend. I did a couple of things I had planned, such as homework and work-work. Beyond that though, I decided I needed comfort food. Which made me feel better for the seconds it took to inhale each bite. Now I feel like the garbage I ate even though I knew I shouldn't, I refused to stop myself. Perhaps next time my emotions get the better of me, I'll remember this time!!

  21. I know I've been guilty of "putting things off"…that I can do it later…and sometimes later is…never. However, since I have my own business which started out really slow and gave me lots of time to waste (which I did), it has now got me running without enough hours in the day. I am learning to schedule what has to be done…so I can try and get everything accomplished. If I don't, no problem. God, hopefully, will give me another day to finish.

  22. Oh I definately needed this one! My emotions rule my life…I need to get a handle on this…it causes me great distress. I get nothing done that needs to get done..well…except this post..which of course gets me no closer to my to do list! HA

  23. OUCH! But I needed that ouch in MANY areas! It's so hard to balance this with also having health problems. I never know how much is emotional vs. physical. I do know that we can usually do far more than we think we can! We just have to get up and DO IT! Besides doing what we need to usually improves our health whether emotionally or physically or both. Thanks for the good word!

  24. sigh…. it's been one of those "emotion" days I guess.  Time to put my smile on and be up and doing.  I have really enjoyed your messages.  They are always what I need to hear and in a loving way that gets in to my heart and head.  Thank you!

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