Over the last 18 months, I have been under the mentorship of a truly Godly, sweet, older woman. Dr. Lavonne Atnip groomed me personally each month to grow and become more of what God made me to be. We spent a special amount of time going over her 101 ways to minister to your husband. We only made it about one third of the way through because we’d discuss each suggestion thoroughly before moving on to the next topic.
This past week Dr Lavonne passed away after a very, very short battle with cancer. She was taken so suddenly, and so fast. The notebook I now own, filled with wisdom and counsel from her, is a very treasured possession to me. In honor of her memory, I wanted to share the first 10 ways to minister to your husband that she taught me.
I’m not going to comment, or give extended teaching on each. Most of these things are actually practical wisdom that should be commonplace. But something about the way she shared them gave me fresh revelation for how I should treat my husband. I’m praying that today as you read these, God will speak to your spirit and give you fresh revelation as well!
1. Communicate with him. Never close him out.
2. Regard him as important and let him know he is important to you, second only to God.
3. Be interested in his friends, and give him time to be with his friends.
4. Ask his opinion of any given thing frequently.
5. Value what he says, even if it’s a different opinion than yours.
6. Let him feel your approval and affection. Speak into his emotions.
7. Protect his dignity on a daily basis.
8. Be tender with him, realizing he has feelings also.
9. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home and look for ways to laugh together.
10. Avoid sudden major changes with discussion,– giving him time to adjust.
The importance of agreeing with what God’s Word says about you will literally change your life. This article came about because of a dream I had. Well, there is a lot more to it than a dream–it’s a season of life that I’ve been walking through—but the dream brought it into reality this week.
In my dream, every “scene” or picture had a rainbow in it. Whether it was in a doorway, in the corner, in a picture on a wall–there was rainbows all over my dreams all night long! And I woke up knowing I needed to share with you how to start speaking God’s promises over your life.
There are 3573 promises in the Bible. Do you believe God’s word is alive? Do you believe it was written for you? Do you believe it can change the way you think today? Start finding and speaking these promise over your life and watch your mind RENEW.
It’s really simple; here’s how I do it…
Therefore you are no longer a slave, but a son; and if a son, then an heir [a]through God. Galatians 4:7
The Promise: I am not a slave, I am God’s Heir.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, Ephesians 1:3
The Promise: I have every spiritual blessing.
And the peace of God, which surpasses all [a]comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7
The Promise: Peace guards my mind.
And the disciples were continually filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit. Acts 13:52
The Promise: Joy is available to me through communion with Holy Spirit.
‘Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’ Isaiah 41:10
The Promise: Anxiety has no place in my body.
I sought the Lord, and He answered me, And delivered me from all my fears. Psalms 34:4
The Promise: God will answer me.
Soooo! Since I love graphics so much, I made a printable graphic for you to print and place in your Bible, or on your fridge, or somewhere that you can see these promises and speak them everyday.
Every time we confirm our struggle, we make it our identity and in turn, give it greater hold in our life.
You are not a problem.
Truthfully, the battle begins in your mind. You were chosen by God to be free and bear fruit. Waging this battle is not easy—no! It is after all, a battle. However, as children of God, we have access to all the tools we need to fight victoriously.
I love how The Message Bible translates this scripture…
“God is strong, and he wants you strong. So take everything the Master has set out for you, well-made weapons of the best materials. And put them to use so you will be able to stand up to everything the Devil throws your way. This is no afternoon athletic contest that we’ll walk away from and forget about in a couple of hours. This is for keeps, a life-or-death fight to the finish against the Devil and all his angels. Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet. Truth, righteousness, peace, faith, and salvation are more than words. Learn how to apply them. You’ll need them throughout your life. God’s Word is an indispensable weapon. In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out.” Ephesians 6:10-18 MSG
When you hear yourself say, whether in your head or out loud, something that identifies you with your struggles, grab it and turn it around. Speak the truth over your life, and the lives of those around you. If you do, your life will never be the same.
#1 Buy them a journal that is fun, mysterious, lock & key, –you name it–just make it what they like.
My kids all have different journals. My oldest daughter has a leather journal that is almost like a medieval book from ages past. My son’s journal is a hardcover black book that reminds one of a spy log. And my youngest daughter has a cute, flowery journal that is very true to her delicate and sweet nature. You can either let them help you choose, or make it a special gift based on your knowledge of their personality.
#2 Read to them daily out loud from the Word of God.
Recently I was convicted that I should leave the traditional Greek based school system and incorporate a more Hebrew approach to learning in our homeschool. Meaning, the Bible will become our main textbook. The single most vital thing we can teach our children before they leave home is how to love the word of God, and to desire to hear from God and live in His presence.
The amount of “humanism” in the church today is appalling. However, it’s no surprise that children are leaving the church when we teach our children to be logical and reasonable above all else and completely ignore or downplay the Supernatural. God is logical and reasonable, but He is also mysterious, powerful, and does miraculous and amazing works.
#3 Ask each children to listen for, then write down something that stood out to them, or that they remembered from the reading.
Writing down what we hear is critical. We can hear all manner of wonderful truths and delicious new revelations, but if we fail to write them down, they are more often than not, lost. Not only are the lost for today, but they rob you of building on that revelation in the future. When you have written it down in your journal, and can look back on it in days, months, and years, and you will have a foundation for greater revelation.
God speaks. There is no doubt that God does speak to us. He speaks through many ways, but one of the most important is through His word. Teach your children that the verse that they remember, or that jumped out at them is the voice of God speaking to them. Often when something is highlighted in God’s word like that, it is what God is speaking to us for that day or season. Encourage this–BUILD that faith in your children. Then have them write it down. They will be grateful your taught them this vital skill.
“And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:6-9 Kayla Howard loves doing business from her home in the woods where she is the master real food chef, homeschool teacher, goat shepherdess, head gardener and holds a certificate of studies from The Pacific Institute of Aromatherapy Her passion is vibrant health in beautiful homes! www.kaylahoward.com
The other day I saw an article, most likely in a Facebook feed, which triggered something down deep inside of me. You know that feeling you get about ideas that are important to you…something you are passionate about? That was this feeling. It screamed, “NO!” with every fiber of my body.
The article was titled, “’I’m fat’ and other things my daughter has heard me say.”
Now, I confess, I did not read the article, but I’m going to make a hopeful guess that it was actually encouragement to stop this kind of practice, however, it brought out my own inner passion on this very subject.
This is something I’m so passionate about in fact that I would venture to guess my daughter’s have actually never heard me say that. I don’t call myself ugly names as a general rule, but raising daughters free of feeling fat has always been my special ambition.
Why would I care? Simply because I did feel fat growing up and it literally inhibited me by keeping me focused on myself…which was completely ridiculous because I was certainly not fat.
How much time do we as girls, young ladies and then as women, WASTE on ourselves. Time that could have been spent enjoying games (if you weren't "too fat" and self conscious,) blessing others with your gift (if you could stop thinking about how you looked long enjoy to stand up and sing) or serving a hurting soul (if only you weren't too busy standing in front of the mirror pinching an inch and complaining).
Don’t get me wrong, not all time spent on yourself is a waste. But, time spent calling yourself fat, talking about all the things you hate about you, and slinging insults about your body is time WASTED. Period.
Sure, if you need to lose some weight or tone up, there’s nothing wrong with that. Please, JUST DO IT. Don’t talk about it.
Words have great power. The age old rhyme is so absurd!! Words do hurt. Words change atmospheres. Words change lives.
Moms, Dads, you have so much influence on the atmosphere of your home. Not only in what you allow or disallow your children to do in your home, but what you they see you do as an example. Do they hear you speak words of life about yourself? Children are very likely to do what you do. That age old line is true.
Are you living out a life in front of your children that you would be proud to see them live out for themselves?
Okay, so I know you can’t keep your kids from bad things in the world, and they will hear people use cruel words toward themselves and others. But I believe you can create an atmosphere in your home that will be make similar training ground as to how they train people to identify real currency—by studying the real thing. If we create a beautiful atmosphere built on the truth of God’s word, they will sense when something is off when they are out and about.
Speak life over your home. Refuse to invite crazy, offensive and vile spirits there. Don't say it if it's not going to edify.
There are two key things I do in our home to encourage spiritual health:
#1 Praise and worship music is playing almost all day. We use Pandora and create our own station with our favorite artists such as Toby Mac, Casting Crowns, Bethel, Jesus Culture, & Bekah Shae. It's pretty common to see someone break out in a worship dance around here.
#2 We also soak in biblical teachings in our car, on our computer etc… We personal enjoy these specific teachers:
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