Good-Bye Chaos; Lessons I Learned About Parenting From Business
By Kayla Howard
Parent, do you feel like your hours are primarily spent barely keeping ahead of “what’s next” in your children’s behavior?
“No, don’t do that”. “Stop touching that”. “You can’t smear boogers on the windows”. “NO! get down from there!!!” “STOP! Don’t speak to me like that”. “Don’t hit your sister”. “What do you mean you’re hungry? We just ate…”.
After leading business teams, I felt like God was showing me that all these things I was learning were just good parenting skills! At a time when my home was feeling chaotic, this revelation was just in time.
Business teams work well when run by a strong and focused leader. The group is on task. They are learning. They are not whining,– and they are not asking random crazy questions or pestering and goading each other.
A great leader has many wonderful qualities, as well as special gifts. Here are a few notes that I’ve taken which will apply to parenting skills and making a home that is peaceful of prosperous.
A great business leader is present.
In other words… they aren’t the person “somewhere” behind it all. People can see them, and then can know them. They can learn from their example.
Being present in your home as a parent means that you connect and talk with your children. You are approachable and not constantly tied up in busy-ness.
A great business leader is teaching & directing the focus.
Great leaders don’t wait for things to go wrong before they instruct. A great leader directs the focus and proactively trains all along the way. Much like the Bible instructs parents to do… “Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.” Deuteronomy 6:7
Proactive parenting will prevent so much boredom and careless behavior. When I’m doing a task, it seems hard to me to instruct on what I’m doing—I’d rather just get it done. However, children MUST learn skills, and what better way than by example as they work beside their parent.
Pointing out good behavior, thanking them for regular obedience and simply smiling are great morale boosters!
Leading people through bumps, hurdles and catastrophes is part of being great,– but instructing consistently makes a leader awesome.
A great business leader does not allow distractions to overwhelm.
Successful business people don’t spend an hour looking at all the random catalogs that came in the mail today while working. They don’t get on the internet to answer emails and waste 2 hours looking at shoes. And they don’t allow people with crappy attitudes to paralyze them with fear. Nope.
Great parents don’t get overwhelmed by distractions either.
It’s not easy. In fact, it’s hard. That’s why it’s called overcoming. That’s the word in my spirit these last few days— Overcomers. Yes you can be an overcomer and a champion…One decision & one action at a time.